第八章 音乐让你爱交往在线视频

Hello,everyone
各位同学大家好

Today we will have the 《Music makes one healty 》 series of micro lessons
今天给大家带来《音乐与健康》

the eighth lecture
系列微课的第八讲

Music makes you love socializing
“音乐让你爱交往”

Many students think this is a very fresh topic
很多同学觉得这是一个很新鲜的话题

Music can affect our emotions
音乐可以影响到我们的情绪

Can promote our cognition
可以促进我们的认知

So how can music be related to our social function
那么音乐怎么会与我们的社会功能

and even improve our emotional intelligence
甚至提高我们的情商有关系

So today I will bring you such a topic
那么今天我就给大家带来这样的一个话题

Does everyone like to make friends
大家都很喜欢交朋友吗

The concept of making friends I mentioned
我提到的这个交朋友的概念

Is that in the process of making friends you will have
就是你会不会在交往朋友过程

some small problems
当中会有一些小问题

For example, it’s difficult and fast for you to be with a stranger
比如说你很难 很快的与陌生人打成一片

Is there such a situation
有没有这种情况

Second question
第2个问题

Do you have ever been called
你是否有这样的一种情况被称之为

a topic terminator
话题终结者

That is to say, you will feel that
就是说着说着你就会觉得

I don’t know how to say it anymore
我不知道怎么样再说下去了

Even after talking, there was silence around you
甚至说完之后身边一片寂静

A little crow passed by
啊，一个小小乌鸦飞过去了

You really don’t know what to say
实在是不知道再往下接什么

There is also a situation where you can’t communicate deeply with people around you
还有一种情况就是你没有办法和身边的人

especially close friends
特别是很亲密的这样的朋友很深入的交心

There is no such a close friend
没有一个知心的交心的这样的朋友

There is no way to release your emotions and emotions
自己的情绪和自己内心淤积的情感

that have accumulated in your heart
没有办法释放出去

Many students may have this problem
这种情况可能很多同学都会有

In daily life, it is very likely that this series of similar situations will occur
在日常生活中，很有可能出现这一系列的情况

So, let ’s take an in-depth analysis
那么，我们就来深入的分析一下

This situation is actually called a social disorder
这种情况其实被称之为社交障碍

If it rises to a certain level
如果上升到一定层级的话

it is called social fear
它叫做社交恐惧

First of all,in this society without friends
首先，就是不受欢迎，一个不受欢迎的人

it ’s difficult for an unpopular person to gain a foothold
其实在这个社会上是很难立足的，没有朋友

Also, when you first enter the workplace
还有呢，就是初入职场的时候

You will encounter some relationship problems
你会遇到些，上下级的和同事之间的

between superiors and colleagues
这样的一些关系问题

There were even a lot of college students who had just entered the workplace at one time
甚至一度有很多很多初入职场的大学生

and had some training on this issue
在这个问题上还会经过一些培训

How do I interact with people and how to say beautiful things
我怎样与人交往，怎样把话说的漂亮

There are many similar topics on the Internet or APP
现在有很多网络这样APP也有是不是

Such as how can I make my words beautiful
怎样才能把自己的话说的漂亮

How can I improve my emotional intelligence, etc
怎样才能提高自己的情商等等，等等

So actually from this point
那么其实从这一点上

It means that we are still troubled on this issue
就说明我们还是在这个问题上有所困扰

So we asked for help
所以我们才去寻求帮助

So interpersonal relationship problems have always
所以人际关系问题一直以来都是

troubled us young college students
困扰着我们这些青年大学生们的

Third question
第三个问题

When you grow up to a certain time
当你成长到一定时候

You can fall in love
你可以谈个恋爱

Especially boys, there is such a sentence
特别是男孩子，有这么样的一句话

How can boys become mature
说男孩子怎样才能变得成熟呢

As long as you go through girls, you will definitely become mature
只要你去经历女孩，你一定会变得成熟

And it will improve your EQ
而且会越来越提高自己的情商

At a certain age
到了一定年龄

We may all fall in love and we will all get married
我们可能都会去谈恋爱，都会去结婚

Step into the family
步入家庭这样一个过程

But many people will gradually degenerate on this issue
但是很多人在这个问题上就会日渐的退化

Especially when you are over 30
特别是到30岁以上

We now see many older women left in society
我们现在看到了社会上很多的大龄剩女

Very common
很普遍的存在

Then parents and leaders are anxious
然后父母也着急，然后领导也着急

Many people around him also introduce girlfriends for him
身边的很多人都为他介绍 介绍 介绍

But he has always been in a state of solitude
但是他一直处在一个很孑然自身的状态

Maybe he enjoys this feeling very much
也许他很享受这种感觉

In fact, some people may have a deep understanding of him
但其实呢其实可能有的人或者是深入的了解他

或者是深入的了解他

he will find that he is actually because of his love IQ
会发现他其实是因为他的恋爱智商有问题

It's a disguised form, an expression with very low EQ
就是一种变相的，一种情商很低的一种表现

The last one is the most serious， have no friends
最后一个就是最严重的，我没朋友

There is no way to express it with family members
跟家人没有办法抒发

There is no way to talk to the people closest to you
跟自己身边最亲近的人没有办法去讲这些

Slowly he begins to suppress his emotions
慢慢的自己就开始压抑自己的情绪

Even in the end, the most serious level is reaching an autism
甚至到最后最严重的层面就是达到了一个自闭

Even a state of depression
甚至说抑郁的这样的状态

Maybe each of us will have problems of one kind or another
可能我们每个人的情绪都会有这样那样的问题

As long as we can use the best expression channel to express
只要我们能够抒发出去最良好的抒发管道

That is to make a good friend and a close friend
就是交一个好朋友，交一个知心的知己

Talk to her
为她，跟她倾诉衷肠

Only in this way can we express our depressed emotions
这样才会把我们内心所压抑的情感也好

and depressed psychological problems
压抑的心理问题也好 给他抒发出去

For our Chinese college students
这也是我们中国大学生的一个

this is also a very good expression channel
非常良好的抒发的管道

Because there will be some problems in Chinese traditional culture
因为我们呃中国的传统文化当中

that is, we have to be restrained
会有一些问题 就是我们要内敛

We have to contain our emotions,
我们要把情感含住，不要表达的那么的开

don’t be so open
不要那么的开放

Let yourself release your emotions very strongly
让自己把情感很很浓烈的释放出去

This is part of our traditional culture
这是我们这个传统文化当中的一部分

Our Chinese college students can compare the difference between
所以一直以来我们的中国大学生可以对比一下

domestic and foreign college students
这个国外大学生和中国大学生之间

You will find that they will find
你对比一下就会发现他们很容易的

confidence easily
就会找到自信

At a certain point, he will continue to
在某一个点上他就会滔滔不绝地

talk about his views
阐述自己的观点

And we Chinese college students may
而我们中国大学生也许你内心是

have a lot of things to say
有很多很毒针要说的话

Or you already understand this truth
或者是你已经明白了这样的一个道理

You already know where the answer to this question is
你已经知道了这个问题的解答在哪 答案在哪

But you have no way to say
但你却没有办法说

I know, I will say it
“我知道，我就要说出来怎么 怎么样”

We have no way to do this
我们没有办法做到这一点

This is a universal communication problem
这是我们普遍性的一个交流问题

Or a problem of expression
或者说一个表达问题，表达难题

So today, I would recommend everyone
那么今天呢 我就给大家推荐了

such a way of communication
这样的一种交往的一个方式

Maybe everyone can't meet this on weekdays
可能大家在平日里是这个遇不到

A topic that teaches you how to make friends
什么教你怎样去交朋友的这样的一个话题这样的一个方式方式方法

Today, I bring you such
但是今天呢我带给大家这样的一个很有趣的

a very interesting and effective social method
既有趣的又有效的这样的一个社交法

Music social method
叫做音乐社交法

In fact, it is
音乐社交法呢，其实它是一个比较

a more comprehensive communication method
综合性的一种交往手法

It is actually a branch of a certain treatment method from music therapy
它其实是来自于音乐治疗学的某一个治疗方法这样的一个分支

It puts you in a small society of music experiments
它是通过音乐的手段和方式把你

through the means and methods of music
置身在一个音乐的实验的小社会当中

Maybe a few people, maybe a group of people
也许是几个人，也许是一群人

Then, the main thing is to grasp your role
然后呢，主要就是要把握好自己的角色

Match the surrounding music environment
配合周围的音乐环境

Finally, play a harmonious and beautiful melody
最后呢，演奏出很和谐的又很动听的旋律

In this case, your collective strength can complete this task
这样的话 你们集体的力量就可以把这个任务完成

Like a group
就像一个团体就像一个团队

Like a complete class and so on
就像一个完全的一个班级等等等等

n fact, no matter how big a class is
其实不论多大的一个班级

No matter how small a combination
无论多小的一个组合

It's a small society
它都是一个小社会

Everyone will have his own role
每个人都会有自己的角色

So much for that
那说了这么多

Maybe the students still have some minor problems
可能同学们还会有一些小问题不理解

So now for you to make two music games
那么好了，那么现在给大家做两个音乐游戏

Let everyone find the most suitable social state in the game
让大家在游戏当中找寻自己最擅长的最适合的自己那种社交的这样一种状态

Now, let's reduce the 4 big parts of the chorus to each of you
现在呢，我们把合唱的4个大的声部缩小 缩小到你们每一个人的身上

Now you are the legendary bass
现在，你就是传说中的男低音

Mezzo-soprano, tenor
女中音，男高音

soprano
女高音

ok
好

You are the simplest harmony part
你们4个是一个最简单的和声声部

Let ’s pick a simple chorus interval
那么我们现在挑一个最简单的和唱的音程

To show you what a real chorus is
为大家展示一下什么叫做真正的合唱

These 4 sounds are very simple
这4个音呢，就是非常简单的

C major，do mi so do
C大调的do mi so do

Now listen to me carefully
现在先听我唱一遍

You should listen to the sound you want to express
你们听着自己要表达的那个音

The first is do
第1个音，就是do

mi
mi

so
so

Neither of you is correct, only he is correct
你们三个都不准 就他准

Try again
再来一遍

do
do

mi
mi

so
so

do
do

very good
很好

so,partial, still a bit partial
偏 还是有点偏

a little lower
再低一点

so
so

right
对

Lower and lower
低一点再低一点

Try again
再来一遍

do, ready go
do 预备 起

do
do

mi
mi

so
so

yes, wonderful
可以 可以 可以 可以

These 4 tones are 4 intervals of a very basic chorus
这4个音呢，是一个非常基本的合唱的4个音程

They are equivalent to the 4 parts in the whole choir
就相当于整个合唱团当中的4个声部一样

that is
分别是

do
do

mi
mi

so
so

do
do

excellent
好 很好

Now ladies and gentlemen，listen carefully, their voice may be dissonant
那现在同学们听一听，他们现在的声音可能是不和谐的

why
为什么呢

Because each of them has a prominent voice
因为他们每一个人的声音都很突出

Because he can only hear his own voice now
因为他现在只能听到自己的声音

It's like everyone wants to espress his own ideas
因为他每一个人，这就像自己的想法一样

All of us can only interpret our own ideas
我们每个人能够解读的只有我们自己的想法

We don’t know what the other party’s thinking is
我们不知道对方的想法是什么

ok，fine
那么，好吧

Now, let's think about it again
现在呢，我们各位同学再想一想

Let ’s listen to the other party ’s voice based on the tone
在自己音的，那个音准的基础之上我们来听一听对方的声音

For example, you two come first
比如说你们两个先来

do
do

mi
mi

You can listen to the other party's voice
可以听一听对方的声音

ok，again
好，再来

do
do

Good job As long as you listen to each other’s voice
mi，很好，就是你们只要听对方的声音了

then the two of you will be harmonious
你们俩的声音就和谐了，就非常好听了

Try again
再试一下

Your two voices,do mi so
你们俩的声音，do mi so

so do
so do

do
do

Listen to his voice
听一听他的声音

Again
再来一遍

ReadyGO
预备，起

so
so

do
do

Again，we have to hear each other’s voice while releasing each one’s voice
再来，我们4个人把每个人的声音释放出来的同时要听到对方的声音

Imagine your own voice
要想象一下自己的声音

Like a cotton ball, it's fluffy and can stick a lot of other people's voices into it
像一个棉花球一样，毛茸茸的可以粘很多很多其他人的声音在里面融成一体

So each of you seems to have 4 lights on it
所以你每个每个人上面仿佛就有4道光一样

Then these four lights hit together like a beam of light
然后这四道光，“唰”，打在一起就像

Very beautiful
打到上面啊，非常的漂亮

Very splendid
非常的灿烂

As long as you can hear each other ’s voice and feel the other ’s voice
只要你能听到对方的声音

You can sing your own voice to the best
就能把自己的声音唱到最漂亮 最好听

OK so
好吗，那么

Try again
我们再来一遍

Listening for the last time
最后听一遍，这一遍

Is their voice different from just now
他们的声音是不是跟刚才不一样了

Let's think
我们来想想

sniff
吸气，要吸气

Otherwise it will not last that far
要不，持续不到那么远

do mi so do
do mi so do

do
do

mi
mi

so
so

do
do

ok
好不好

Clap
鼓掌

All right
好了

Does any classmate want to share the sounds you just sang
那有没有同学想分享一下你刚才

What's your feeling about these simple sounds
简单的这几个音有什么样的感受

Can you share
你可以分享一下吗

yes
可以

ok
好

Then you go back first, you stay and talk about it first
那你们先回去，你先说一说

What did you think just now
刚才你觉得怎么样

At the beginning, our four tones are very different
一开始呢我们4个音色都差异很大

Then the volume is also different
然后音量也不同

But after the teacher ’s guidance
但是经过老师的指导

We made adjustments individually
然后我们各自做了调整之后

After that our voices became more and more integrated
我们声音越来越融合

Then the whole chorus becomes more pleasant
然后整个合声也变得更加好听

more and more tacit
变得越来越默契

Right
嗯对

Then you feel that
那你觉得在过程中

your own single tone in the process is nice
你自己的一开始单独的一个音好听

Or the last sound we putting together sounds good
还是最后我们合在一起的音好听

Our chorus is even better
我们的合声更加好听

The chorus sounds better
合声更加好听

So did you learn a feeling about how to interact with others
那么你在过程中有没有学到一个

It is to converge some of your own characteristics or sharp edges
就是嗯，把自己一些特点啊

And then more integrated with the people around
然后跟旁边的人更加融合

Only in this way can our voice be more pleasant and we can be more harmonious
然后，这样的话，我们声音才能够

Very good
好好好好

This is how I want to tell everyone how to socialize with music
这就是我想要告诉大家的怎样用

Because each of us has a different voice
因为我们每一个人的声音都是不一样的

Like the role of each of us
就像我们每一个人的角色一样

We are all unique
我们都是独一无二的

No one can replace us
没有人可以替代我们

When we grow up,
我们从小长到大的时候

We will think of ourselves as a truly unique person
我们会觉得自己就是一个

So it ’s easy for us to put our voice very loud
所以我们很容易就把自己的声音放得很大

Or just highlight such a content of our own
或者是只突出我们自己个人的

Instead, we forget it is a social society
反而呢，忘记了身边，它是一个交往的社会

Forgetting that there is such an experimental society around us
忘记了身边是一个实验性的这样

Only you, walk out of the school gate
只有你，走出学校的大门

You will realize that this world is really big
你才会发现这个世界真的很大

Much bigger than you think
比你想象中要大很多

That ’s why you start to slow down your role in the process
所以你才会在过程当中把自己的

listen slowly
慢 慢 慢 慢的去听听

and feel the feelings of others
去感受别人的感受

This is how we integrate into society
这才是让我们成为一个非常 非常

So let's begin our second game
那么好，我们现在做第2个游戏

Another group game
又是一个群体的游戏

Release your voice
把自己的声音释放出来

Ok, next game
来，下一个游戏

Let's move the table
我们来搬一下桌子

We now invite 4 classmates to
我们现在请4个同学上来

find your own instrument
来找到自己的非常可爱的乐器

Ok
好

Now
现在给大家讲一讲

You have chosen your favorite instrument
你们现在选择了自己非常喜欢的乐器

is your own choice
是你们自己的选择

It seems to be you
他仿佛就是你自己

Your voice is its voice
你的声音就是他的声音

Today Let's play this piece of music,
今天我带大家演奏的这个乐曲

which is the most familiar and full of Christmas atmosphere
就是我们最熟悉的，富有圣诞气氛的一首乐曲

《Jingle Bells》
就是《铃儿响叮当》《Jingle Bells》

Then everyone knows its sound
那么它的音色大家都知道了

Right
是不是

Then after
那么我在一个乐句的最后

mimimi
mimimi

mi so do re mi
mi so do re mi之后

You two voices come out
你们两个声音发出来

Ring the bell
撞铃

triangle iron sound
三角铁，三角铁的声音

You knock first
你先敲一下

ok
好撞铃的声音，唉对了

that's it
就是这样的

At the end of the first phrase
在第1个乐句的最后

ring it
再把它敲响

Be sure to spare this shot
一定要空出这个拍

you just follow my rhythm
而你们就完全跟着我的节奏

Just like "Dangdang Dang", it must be "Shua shua"
就像“当当当”，就是一定要“刷刷刷刷”

to be tidy
“刷刷刷”要整齐

It Means that each of you
整齐的意思就是你们每个人要

has to hear each other ’s voice
听到对方的声音

Have a try
嗯，可以试一下

Ready
预备

I give you a rhythm
我给你个节奏“哒哒哒哒哒哒”

go
预备，起

stop
停

right
对

Then when you stop, you can control it
然后停的时候，你手可以控制它

don't let it ring again
不要让它再“哗啦哗啦”

you have to control it
有那个声音，要控制住它

Don't let too much sound
不要让太多的那个“哗啦”的声音去

interfere with the sound
干扰到这个撞铃和三角铁的声音

ok
好吗

ok
那么好

Let's play "Jingle Bells" now
我们现在来演奏一遍《铃儿响叮当》

This xylophone as a main instrument
以我这个木琴作为一个主要的乐器

and the other percussion music must cooperate with me
然后其他的这个打击乐要配合我

matching the voices of others
要听着我的声音配合对方很多人的声音

ok
好吗

ok
好

Begin
《Jingle Bells》开始

ok
好

stop
你看，停

I just said that when you first started
我刚才说开始的时候

you two got in and out, right
你们两个有出有进的，是吧

Try again
我们来再来一遍

begin
试一下

《Jingle Bells》
《铃儿响叮当》

Start to feel my breath
开始感受我的呼吸

very good
好，很好

excellent
非常好

Do it again
我们再来一次

Last time, adjust your tone
最后一次，再把自己的音色调整到更好

Your two voices are still a bit jagged
你们两个的声音还是有点参差

you still have to listen to each other or feel my rhythm
还是要互相听着对方或者是感受一下我的节奏

ok
好吗

Then your two voices, be careful
然后你俩的声音，一声的时候也是要注意

not to have that friction
不要有那个摩擦的这个声音

Just a moment
就一下，就好了

Because it will have a bump
因为它会有一个撞

and then leave
然后要离开

and leave in an instant
要瞬间离开

or it will have a rubbing sound
要不它会有一个蹭的那个声音

ok
好吗

Yours is a "ding"
你的就是

a "ding"
“叮”一声

right
对

Just stand out your voice
把自己的声音突出就好了

Very good
很好

Again
再来一遍

"Jingle Bells"
《铃儿响叮当》

The last time
最后一次

Ready go
好，预备，起

ok
好

Clap
鼓掌

Well
好了

In the process, you may hear
过程中呢，可能大家会听到

the voices of some students
有的同学的声音就有进有出

Some just missed the shot
有的同学呢就是没赶上拍

But all are normal
但都是正常的

Because we are not professional performers
因为我们不是专业的演奏人员

we have not received any professional training
我们也没受过什么专业的这种培训

We have to highlight our feelings
但是呢，在过程中我们要突出自己的感受

Did you just miss a shot
你刚才是不是有一个拍落掉了

Is it
是不是

How do you feel
你是一个什么样的感觉

I feel like I'm waiting for him
感觉我在等他

You are waiting for him
你在等他

Then I waited, and we must not be at the same time
然后我一等，我俩肯定不能同时

It can't be at the same time, this is
就不能同时了，这个就是

It ’s because your sense of role is not
就是你的角色感没有掌握

good enough to cooperate with him
掌握好跟他的这种配合

After all, this is the first time to practice
因为毕竟头一次这个去练习

But as you slowly progress, you will find that
但是你慢慢的过程中你就会发现

your character and his character are same
其实你的角色跟他的角色你们俩是同步的

Although you are the same character
虽然你们俩是同一个角色

the tone is different
但是你们两个的音色是不一样的

Like you are a girl
就像你是女孩子

he is a boy
他是男孩子

Maybe in such a learning environment
可能在这样的一个学习环境当中

in such a social environment
在这样的一个社会环境当中

both of you are also employees of a company
你俩同样都是一个公司的职员

and you are also classmates
同样都是一个班级的同学

but the style of your two is
但是你们两个的风格和你们两个

completely different from your role
的角色是完全不一样的

Although you are doing the same job
虽然做着同样工作

you must have a tacit cooperation
但是你们必须要有一个默契的配合

to make this job better and more complete
才能完成，才能把这个工作做得更好更完整

Right
对吧

Is that so
是这样吗

yes
是这样

So you two have the same voice
所以你们两个也是同样的声音

Although different roles,
虽然不同的角色

the same voice must be coordinated well
但是同样的声音一定要默契配合好

to achieve a final perfect effect
才能达到一个最终完美的效果

ok
好吗

ok
好

Through this game
那这个游戏可能就会给大家带来一个

We are a complete common harmony movement
我们真的就是一个完整的共同的和谐乐章

So as long as a good grasp of your role
所以只要把自己的角色把握好

and feel the feelings of the other party,
又能真切的感受到对方的感受

this is actually a harmonious, social expression
其实这就是一个和谐的、社会的一种表达

ok
好

These two games
那么以上两个音乐游戏

You find it interesting and fun
可能大家在过程中觉得又有趣、又好玩

It contains a lot of content
但其实它里面蕴藏的内容是很多的

Please see PPT
比如说大家可以看一下PPT

It shows first he has to obey me
PPT上显示出首先他要听从我的

Maybe he is your teacher
也许他是你的老师

maybe he is your leader
也许他是你的领导

He will tell you
他会给你一个，从一个领导的角度

from a leadership perspective
从一个领导的角度告诉你

how to do
你应该去怎么做

First of all, in such an environment, we must
首先我们在这样一个环境当中要听从指挥

obey the command and then look for our role
然后要找寻自己的角色

You are domi or ring
你是do 你是mi 你是撞铃

triangle iron
你还是三角铁

Finding out what your role looks like
要找寻自己的角色是什么样子

should understand yourself
要了解自己

And then, observe
之后呢，就要观察

To observe people around
要观察周围人

What role is he like
他是一个什么角色

and what his voice looks like
他的声音是什么样子的

After understanding the environment
要有这样的一个对周围环境的

bravely speak your own voice
勇敢的把自己的声音发出来吧

your voice will become a very important position
这样的话你的声音就会成为这个

in this harmonious movement
和谐乐章的一个非常重要的一个位置

we must actively cooperate with everyone's voice
之后我们要积极的配合大家的声音

to integrate our voice into such a collective environment
把自己的声音融入到这样的一个集体环境当中

Don't make your voice too prominent
不要把自己的声音太突出

Just like the girl just said
就像刚才这个女孩子说的

don’t make your voice too prominent
不要把自己的声音太突出

Then the sound will be dissonant
这样的话声音就会不和谐

After we played
直到最后，我们把完整的一个

a complete piece of music
乐曲演奏之后

you must
你一定要什么呀

cheer yourself up
为自己加油

cheer yourself
为自己喝彩

and get praise and applause from many people
也要得到很多人的赞美和鼓掌

There is such a word
有这样的一个词

There is such a term in psychology
在心理学上有这样的一个词

called generalization
叫做泛化

It means you can find
泛化指的就是你能在一个模式

what you want to express in a pattern
当中找到自己要表达的东西之后

and generalize it to life
把它泛化到生活当中

In other words, life actually corresponds
也就是生活当中和你要表达的

to what you want to express
东西其实是对应的

So in these two music games
那么刚才这两个音乐游戏当中

we correspond to life
我们对应到生活当中，泛化到生活

what will be generalized to life
当中会有怎样的内容

Following the arrangement of the teacher and the leader
比如说要听从老师和领导的安排

that's following the command
也就要听从指挥

This is a main line
这是一个主线

and a general direction
也是一个大方向

Maybe after you grow up
也许你在成长到一定环境之后

you will also become a teacher
你也会成为老师

you will also become a leader
你也会成为领导

you will also have your own employees
你也下面会有自己的员工

and you will have your own students
会有自己的学生

At this time, you also have to play a leadership role
这个时候你也要起到一个领导的作用

to find a role like yourself
找寻自己这样的一个角色

The second is to understand the social environment
那么第二呢就是要了解周围的社交环境

Am I in the bedroom
我是在寝室里呢

Am I still at school
我还是在学校呢

Am I still in my company
我还是在我的公司

Or in the office so on
还是在我的工作的办公室呢等等

This is the surrounding environment We understand
这都是周围的环境，要了解

and express your thoughts confidently
然后自信的表达出自己的想法

What i want to say
我想要说什么

What i want to express
我要表达的东西是什么

But paying attention to the thoughts
但是一定要关注到周围人的想法

and emotions of the people around you
关注他人的想法和情感

is a high-level expression of high emotional intelligence
是一种高情商的一个最高级别的表现

Only when you empathize with other people ’s ideas
只有你感同身受到其他人的想法

and stand in the perspective of others
能站在别人的角度去想问题的时候

you will reach a height of thought
这个时候你就会达到了一个思想的高度

I know your feelings
我知道你的感受

I know your difficulties
我知道你的难处

I know where your emotions are
我也知道你的情感在哪里

And then
之后呢

We have to add this content to our emotions
我们要把这个内容加杂到自己的情感当中

You know what others say and what I think
会发现别人讲什么我自己想什么

so you can take the next step
你才能够走下一步

To speculate on the ideas of others
才能揣测到另一些人的想法

Until you have all your voices spoken
直到你们把所有的声音发出来之后

until you have done everything
直到你们把所有的事情直到你们

until you have completed this case together
把这个案例共同完成之后

you will find that
你就会发现

I am more than just
哇，其实我不仅仅是一个这个社会上的

in an office in this society
这个办公室的

I am not only an important player in this company
我不仅是这个公司的一个重要角色

More importantly, I am a very good member
更重要的是，我是这样一个集体

of such a collective
当中的非常优秀的一员

So it ’s very important to recognize
所以要认可自己的想法并加以鼓励

your own ideas and encourage them
这也是非常重要的

This is also a process of greatly
这也是我们的一个自信心的

improving our self-confidence
一个极大提高的一个过程

Music is used to express feelings
音乐本来就是用来传情达意的

We humans create music to
我们人类创造音乐就是要与他人

express their emotions with others
表达自己的情感的

so fall in love with music and be sociable
所以让你用音乐的方式爱上交往吧

Become a popular person gracefully
优雅的成为一个受欢迎的人

Thank you
谢谢大家